For this cultural post, I decided to focus on the stigma around single parents in South Korea. A 2018 survey of 2,500 single parents revealed that 51% were single mothers, around 21% were single fathers, and the remaining number were kids raised by other family members (Kim 2019). A shocking 80% expressed financial distress, the cause of which is said to be the South Korean government’s financial aid system. There are strict requirements in terms of age and income, including the income of the parent’s family, which dictates the small monthly assistance payment of around 115 USD. Additionally, around half of the 84% of single parents who are employed work 10-hour days, and 16.7% don’t have regular days off. Asian Boss did a dual episode focus on single mothers and single fathers and the hardships they face on a day to day basis (2020). They interviewed a woman, Moon Jung, who told her story about how she became a single mother. In her instance, her boyfriend was physically and emotionally abusive, even after realizing she was pregnant. She decided to leave him but was very unsure of how she was going to support herself and her son financially. Unfortunately, she didn’t receive any aid from her ex-boyfriend or friends/family. When her son was old enough to start daycare, she was able to work full-time, but had to take a few days off in a row whenever her son got sick. The company would soon force her to quit. Despite her desperate situation, it was very difficult to receive aid from the government. After her third application, she was eventually approved. She says that although many single mothers have supportive families who can help them, there is a considerable number who have nowhere to turn.
After watching the video about single fathers by Asian Boss, I realized one critical difference between them and single mothers (2019). Single fathers have to file a lawsuit to legally obtain a birth certificate with a Social Security Number for their child so they can receive health insurance and be registered for childcare. This is a very long process, so during this time, the child lives without the same benefits as children with both parents. Before Kim Ji-Hwan had registered his daughter’s birth, she got sick and had to receive a two-week hospital treatment amounting to around 7,000 USD. He was unable to work so he could stay by his child’s side and ended up selling his possessions and took out a private loan to pay for the hospital bills. Now that his daughter is six years old and can be in school, Ji-Hwan works part-time as a driver and does some freelance work as well. He makes just enough for him and his daughter to get by comfortably and contributes any remaining money to the organization he started. It was originally for single fathers, but many single mothers have joined as well. The organization aims to create a community for single parents, so they know they have the support of others and do not deserve to be discriminated against. Within the community, some parents can offer to watch over other kids so their parents can go to work. Parents can donate clothes their children have outgrown and provide some basic food for other parents using any extra money they make.
There is a similar organization that has a broader base with the aim of supporting single mothers called KUMFA (Korean Unwed Mothers Support Network). They create a community for single mothers, so they have an emotional support group (Babe 2018). They also provide essentials and fund short trips for parent-child bonding. These are especially appreciated during national holidays when most people visit their families (married couples visit the husband’s family). Most of the women who are a part of KUMFA have been rejected by their families and don’t have anywhere to go during this time. Korean society is still quite conservative and although people are becoming more progressive, there is an underlying stigma around single parents. Some grandparents refuse to help support their grandchildren and push for them to be put up for adoption. Organizations such as KUMFA and Ji-Hwan’s smaller-scale support group are not only helping out single parents financially but are beginning to change how the Korean society treats them.
Citations
Babe, Ann. “The Stigma of Being a Single Mother in South Korea.” Women's Rights | Al Jazeera. Al Jazeera, March 1, 2018. https://www.aljazeera.com/indepth/features/stigma-single-mother-south-korea-180226144516720.html.
Being a Single Father in Korea. Asian Boss, 2019. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=486bxVeDpIo.
Being a Single Mother in Korea. Asian Boss, 2020. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xZh_eTRWCMs.
Kim, Jae-heun. “Single-Parent Families Suffer Financial Difficulties.” TheKoreaTimes, April 11, 2019. http://www.koreatimes.co.kr/www/nation/2019/04/119_267020.html.