The extended family is the central social structure in Pakistani society. Families typically remain together for life. In rural areas, the importance of family is much higher. Family can be quite large with tribal populations extending the concept to the whole tribe. In recent times, however, families in urban areas are now consisting of only a mother, father and children.
Family bonds and honor are sacred among Pakistanis. Family honor determines the family’s status in society, because of this, honor is jealously guarded. Family matters are considered private and are not discussed publicly, particularly matters concerning female family members. Except for the wealthy and middle class, Pakistani wives are seldom seen in family photos with adult male family members.
Nepotism (brothers taking care of brothers) and favoritism are normal and expected ways of life in Pakistan. The word for this in Arabic is Wasta, defined as "the use of connections to provide services for family and friends." Wasta is how Pakistanis have survived in sometimes hostile environments without the help of an effective national government. In fact, the concept of Wasta is not just Middle Eastern but can be found anywhere there is "a large, dysfunctional bureaucracy and extensive patronage systems". Who one knows and how one takes care of their family and friends are vital aspects of life. Whether in government, in educational institutions, in business, in marriage, or in personal relationships, Wasta is universally applied.
One must also keep in mind that the concept of family can include all of the following: the nuclear family, immediate relatives, distant relatives, tribe members, friends and neighbors. Loyalty to the family comes before other social relationships and business.
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